Schedule, Revised

I had to examine our schedule and make some changes, so here is the revised schedule:



So this is our ideal day, but I must add, that it is rarely this neat and tidy. It looks so pretty on paper; everything in its own, neat little box. This is the Master Plan, but most of the time I just go by my routines, and a more loosely woven “To Do” list. And, it needs to be revised since Baby Stuff is now older and is on a different schedule. Anyhow, it’s here for you to enjoy perusing. (Click on the image to see it enlarged).
Have fun!


No school today. We are decluttering/organizing/cleaning the children’s bedrooms and upstairs linen closet. We will hopefully be done by lunchtime; then we can have a snack and read aloud time. It is supposed to be rainy today, so we may not be able to go outside this afternoon. But, I am not going to plan that far ahead. I am first going to concentrate on the jobs for this morning, and we’ll see how it goes. See you on the other end!

The Difference

The Difference
I got up early one morning
and rushed right into the day;
I had so much to accomplish
that I didn’t have time to pray.

Problems just tumbled about me
and heavier came each task;
“Why doesn’t God help me?” I wondered
He said, “But you didn’t ask.”

I wanted to see joy and beauty
but the day toiled on, gray and bleak;
I wondered why God didn’t show me.
He said, “But you didn’t seek.”

I tried to come into God’s presence;
I used all my keys at the lock.
God gently and lovingly chided
“My Child, you didn’t knock.”

I woke up early this morning
And paused before entering the day.
I had so much to accomplish
That I had to take time to pray.

Author Unknown

Knowing My Place

A friend once said that her husband was told, while on the ship, what his priorities are to be as a sailor:

  1. God
  2. The Navy
  3. The Ship
  4. His Shipmates
  5. His Family

Or was it:

  1. God
  2. Ship
  3. Shipmates
  4. The Navy
  5. His Family?

Either way, family made it around 5th place. We both thought it ridiculous for a Christian man. I tucked the thought away…

After once again having a discussion this evening with my dear hubby about what I can do to support him more, something occurred to me. I asked him if there was anything else I could be doing to make him more relaxed and happy to be home. He assured me that He is always very happy to be home…he just takes “work” home with him sometimes which makes for a rather grumpy hubby.
Now, my tendency is to take it personally. After all, I am supposed to come first, after God, of course, and then the children, so why is my CHRISTIAN husband neglecting his responsibilities and taking out his frustrations on us? Didn’t I read that things are supposed to be a certain way, in those Christian living/marriage/parenting/homeschooling/you-name-it-books. Dad leads family bible time over breakfast, and again after dinner; all this with an 8 hour day, 5 day workweek? And then church on Sundays and midweek; with him helping work on the church building project at other times? Not to mention the discipling of his children?
It sounds ideal. I don’t know if that is how civilian families live.
I do know that we don’t.
My hubby goes to work at o dark o’clock, and comes home when they tell him he can. Sometimes that’s after a normal workday–12-14 hours. But sometimes it’s not until 1 am, and he has to be back by 6 am. Sometimes he has duty and stands watches or goes on deployments or work-ups or DET’S…sometimes it’s Saturdays or Sundays or both…it’s never set in stone. Requesting Sundays off because of his “religious beliefs” is not an option.
So who am I to whine? With what he does all day, he deserves to come home to the one place in the whole world where he is loved and respected. Who would want to come to a nagging, contentious woman? I certainly wouldn’t, and I don’t want that for my beloved, either. I am grateful he is home for the next few months, even if he does have to be at work for most of it. He still gets home eventually; and I’ll take what I can get because deployment comes all too soon.

Military wives seem to have a language all their own. And it narrows down even more within the different branches, and yet even more within the particular squadrons and then the jobs their husbands do. Who else can we talk to about DET’S, and deployments, or IA, that would have a clue as to what we were talking about?
Us wives have to learn to create a new family every few years, for our sanity and our survival. No one else around can understand our lifestyle unless it is theirs as well. Sure, others can sympathize, but they cannot truly understand what it is like to have your best friend gone for months at a time, with a 10 minute phone call allowed once a week that has a 3 second delay and sounds like you are shouting into a tin can. When they are flying a mission all unnecessary communication is shut down, meaning, we can’t get phone calls or emails for an unspecified amount of time. We don’t know about these ahead of time, so when we go to check our email one morning and there is no message from him, we know what that means. And we don’t know when it will be over and when we will hear from him.
But what about the husbands? Do they have to choose between duty and family? Not if we do our jobs. We just need to know where we stand. So what occurred to me is that I have to accept the fact that I cannot come first in his life. You see, I am not just married to a Navy man. We are a Navy family. And we have to live our lives in such a way that requires us to be independent of him when need be and yet under his headship at the same time. He’s here, but he’s not. It’s a delicate dynamic; and we wouldn’t make it without God. I don’t know how others families cope without God in their lives. It’s a struggle and a sacrifice, but I know our family is first in my hubby’s heart, even though we cannot be first in his life.

Lord God, help me to be the wife my husband needs; clear the fog away and show me clearly how to support my military man. Thank You for giving him to me. Thank You for all of the military families, and keep them in Your loving hands. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

More Journals, Commonplace books, etc.

Try as I might, I am having difficulty finding pictures of other people’s “To-Do” Journals, Commonplace books, etc. But I will post a few links for what I have found:

Peggy at The Simple Woman

Lady of Virtue’s Commonplace Book,
and here.

Starry Sky Ranch’s

And one for Christmas
(This one resembles my “On-The-Go” Planner, which I will share in another post. It’s very lovely!)


Some of these are regular Home Management Binders, but have a touch of loveliness to them so I included them here. As I said, I am having a hard time finding these now that Jewels’ site is no longer open to us! Hopefully these will inspire just as much, though.

Oh Joy of Joys!

Doth mine ears deceive me? I must be mistaken, because I thought I heard that our high was going to be 72 degrees today! Do I dare hope? Where we live we have loooooong, coooooold winters, and reaching 40 degrees means we wishfully pull out our t-shirts in hopes of warmer weather…
I do believe Spring has finally sprung in our neck of the woods…although we we still have to wear our winter coats in the evenings until around the end of June…But I’ll take it if it means nice, warm days!
These are the days I LOVE to see my children come inside covered in dirt from their outdoor frolicks, and brown(er) from the sunshine after months of being cooped up and snowbound indoors.
And our dinner tonight reminds me of cold winter nights…oh well! We grilled steaks outdoors the other night when temps. reached only in the 50’s. If this warmer weather keeps up there will be plenty more grilling in the days to come. (I say if because we have been known to have an April snowstorm or two here. Pray that the snow is over until at least November!)

Happy Spring to you all, almost a month late from here in “Coldville”!