Lost my cool

So today I raised my voice at one of my daughter’s “friends”. She lives in the neighborhood; and the friendship started well enough, but now this child has become very mean-spirited–doing things such as threatening to throw dirt in my son’s eyes, name-calling, chasing and threatening. And today, it was putting a clarinet to my daughter’s ear and threatening to blow it; and then telling her that her clarinet is more important than my daughter’s ear. My daughter tries to avoid her since things have gotten bad , but as we live so closely and the girls share some of the same friends it can be difficult. And today I got so angry I walked down the street to her and told her what she did was wrong and that she shouldn’t treat her friends that way. Her eyes were wide, and she said “okay”, and then I told her she could tell her mother if she wanted to. (A little background; in the past I have spoken to her mother about these things, and while my children may not always react in the right way, and they are disciplined for it, the mother tells me “she just doesn’t understand”. And then it just keeps happening. ) And so I am expecting a phone call at anytime.
Sooooooo, what should I have done? If it were me, I may have been able to forgive and let it pass, but when it comes to my children, my “mother bear” instinct sets in. I try to let them resolve their issues themselves. My daughter will come and tell me if they have had an argument and what was said, and what she did, and then we’ll discuss if that was the correct way to handle it or not. But when it comes to physical threats, I have to get involved. I know what God’s Word says:

“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” -Matthew 5:44

I did not do any of this! 😦 I let my anger be my guide, and was a terrible example of a Christian woman. She is not a Christian and I didn’t give her a reason today to want to be one! I did not say anything I regret in anger; all of my words were what I would have said even if I had been calm ( I thank God for that). But I do regret my tone and angry demeanor.

That being said, if anyone has any words of wisdom I would greatly appreciate them. (Trolls and anyone attacking my Christianity need not reply.)

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What I’ve been up to

Yesterday was the first day I have felt better and been able to feel almost like a normal person again! Interestingly, yesterday I was also exactly 12 weeks along in my pregnancy.
I was able to get quite a bit done today as well. My two oldest and I did an
Emergency Quick Clean today, and it is so much more comfortable in our home now. I am also going to make some bread today so hubby doesn’t have to keep running out to the store for me! My taste buds (and stomach) can’t take much more of the store bought bread.
We start school on Monday. We will also be on a
3 Week Cleaning schedule , just in case I am still not feeling 100%, and we can keep things simple. I am still getting some nausea in the evening and at night, but it is nothing like it has been the last few weeks!
Thank you to all who prayed for me!